Emotional Turmoil Of Asking For Christmas Help For Gifts
The holidays are meant to be a fun and healthy time to spend with your loved ones. But some families feel stress as they try to make ends meet. It can be tough reaching out for help.
Pride and embarrassment are common reasons that people don’t ask for help. Many feel that they should be able to provide for their families. And if they can’t then they’ll do without.
During these tough financial times, embarrassment is a normal feeling. When you can't provide then it hurts. Remember that a lot of people go through hard times at some point in their lives where they need help. And it's ok to need. In the Triad, our residents are generous in donating gifts so families have a merrier Christmas. Here's the deal, almost everyone can empathize with financial hardships and put themselves in a similar situation.
When you talk to a family member, friend or neighbor for help, make sure that you're open and forthright about your situation. Be specific and clear about what you want. If you want Christmas gifts then be specific of the toys or clothes that you want. Think of a way that you’ll be able to pay them back. Some people may not want you to, but you can’t count on it. If you’re feeling emotional that’s ok.
Ways to Explain Limited Christmas Gifts To Your Kids
The holidays can put a strain on your wallet especially for families. Unfortunately, some parents have to have hard talks with their kids about not being able to get everything on their wish list.
You can start this conversation with your kids when they start talking about their Christmas list. Let them share their excitement of what's on their list. Afterwards, talk to them about what’s the most important items on their list. And what are the must-have's on their list. This way you’ll get a sense of what fits in the budget.
Some kids might say that Santa Claus brings all the toys so there’s no need to pick their top must- haves. How might you respond? This is a little tricky because not all parents view Santa Claus in the same way. You can choose a direct approach where you tell like it is, that there’s limited resources. Or, you can choose an indirect approach and you might want to get creative and say something like, “Gotta make sure there’s room in Santa’s sleigh for all the toys.”
Remember this, there’s no right or wrong answer. And there’s more than one answer for whichever approach you choose.
You might be wondering how you avoid your child getting disappointed on Christmas morning if they don’t get what they want. The best approach is to be pro-active. When your kids are putting their lists together, that’s a great time to look over their lists with them. And find out what’s most important to them. If an item doesn’t fit in the budget then offer alternatives. Also, explain that they may not get everything that they want.
Blanca Cobb is a WFMY News 2 Contributing Editor, body language expert and keynote speaker/trainer who covers nonverbal communication, psychology and behavior. Follow her @blancacobb. The opinions expressed in this article are exclusively hers.
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